Guide Cards
Be impeccable with my word
Avoid using words to speak negatively about myself or gossip about others. Use the power of words in a thoughtful, honest, playful, and loving way.
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Observe what is, free of craving or aversion
Practice awareness of sensations, without craving for the pleasant ones, or aversion towards the unpleasant ones. Pain comes from generating craving or aversion. See what arises, as it is, and how long it lasts. This can be insightful. Each emotion or sensation is impermanent.
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Don't take anything personally
Little others do or say is because of me. What others do or say is a projection of their own reality. When i am immune to the opinions and actions of others, i won't be a victim of needless suffering.
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Don't make assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what i really want. Communicate with others as clearly as i can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.
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Always do my best
My best is going to change from moment to moment. I will be different when i feel healthy, as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do my best, and i will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.
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Stay on my side of the tennis net
Speak only from my perspective - how it makes me feel, how i experience the moment. Don't cross the net by talking about the other, their actions, or their feelings. This way i won't make them feel the need to defend themselves.
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In the heat of the moment: Pause, Breathe
When intense emotions arise, take a moment to become aware. Observe sensations. Breathe. When ready, continue lovingly. Don't spread toxicity. Remain impeccable with my word.
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Did i get that right?
99% of conflicts start from misunderstandings. To avoid unclear communication, you can ask "Can i repeat back what i heard you say?". Then summarize back what you understood, and ask "Did i get that right?".
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